The author explores the difficulty of love in the absence of equality, noting it is hard to love those we don't respect and equally hard to love those who far outshine us.
Love's Unequal Esteem
Francois de La Rochefoucauld
MaximsIt is difficult to love those we do not esteem, but it is no less so to love those whom we esteem much more than ourselves.
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⚖Love's Impossible Balance

Francois de La Rochefoucauld
MaximsA reflection on the inherent difficulty of finding emotional equilibrium, noting that both a deficiency and an excess of love cause significant discontent.
It is equally as difficult to be contented when one has too much or too little love.
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⚖Love by Imitation

Francois de La Rochefoucauld
MaximsThe author suggests that for some, the experience of love is a social imitation prompted by cultural narratives rather than a spontaneous internal feeling.
There are some who never would have loved if they never had heard it spoken of.
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⚖Self-Inflicted Cruelty

Francois de La Rochefoucauld
MaximsA reflection on the internal struggle against romantic feelings, noting that the self-inflicted pain of resistance can exceed the pain caused by the beloved.
The violences we put upon ourselves to escape love are often more cruel than the cruelty of those we love.
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⚖Love's Self-Deception

Francois de La Rochefoucauld
MaximsThe author argues that women often mistake the excitement of courtship and the desire to be loved for genuine passion, confusing mere flirtation with true love.
Women often think they love when they do not love. The business of a love affair, the emotion of mind that sentiment induces, the natural bias towards the pleasure of being loved, the difficulty of refusing, persuades them that they have real passion when they have but flirtation.
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